Guess, Technology makes everything awfully effortless yet powerful. It could be handy or could be not but from the really ‘old school’ times of our lives, we have had these technological terms handy that made apologizing or showing gratitude easy which are ‘sorry’ and ‘thank you’. They made convincing, apologizing, showing mannerism powerful and yes smooth. So, like being dependent upon technology we are dependent upon these two words and especially on ‘sorry’.
Saying sorry to someone means apologizing for the hurt you caused to that person. We often call this word magical and powerful because by just saying sorry, the speaker admits that he has made a mistake and the listener understands that the speaker intends to make it up to him. It is clear that the word is in our lives to apologize for some mistake we commit then why do we apologize our way out to everything that comes in our life for example – bumping out into somebody on the road and apologizing even if the mistake wasn’t ours or being late for some party due to the traffic and even saying sorry for some ‘imaginary’ in hospitality by the host to the guests at the time of their departure?
Most of us have got stricken by this ‘sorry syndrome’ where we have the tendency to apologize to others for no particular reason; it is just the assumption that we might have caused inconvenience to somebody. When we needlessly apologize, we end up making ourselves small and diminish what we’re trying to express, says sociologist Maja Jovanovic.
Canadian sociologist Maja Jovanovic believes the “sorry” we sprinkle through our days hurt us. They make us appear smaller and more timid than we really are, and they can undercut our confidence. The reason behind these unnecessary sorry is our psychology that we cannot be considerate by somebody if we would not layer anything with a ‘sorry’ whereas we can eliminate sorry from our sentences and still be considerate. Life is easy with ‘sorry’ but also, considerate without too many of them so, if you think you are serving over apologies then, inculcate the below mentioned things in your lives and use sorry as a limited ingredient.
- Say ‘thank you’ instead
Say thank you and express your gratitude for something they have done for you instead of spilling too many sorry for not doing it by yourself. Say thank you and try to reciprocate it later.
- Save your Apology
Saying sorry too much can trivialize the act of apology, making the important ones less influencing and carry less weight. Don’t cry a river filled with too many sorry instead, save it for later when in need and mean it.
- Try not to screw anything in the first place
If you are aware of the fact that you possess some trait that might reflect negative effects on others then try not to leave your shell first or at least to avoid any such thing rather than apologizing later.
- Embrace your flaws
No one is flawless, not even the Moon but it still radiates like anything. So, know that you are flawed and so are others. You don’t have to apologize for drinking Appy fizz among the group where alcohol is being consumed or watching roms-coms while all of your friends watch thriller or adventure.
Basically, stop feeling sorry about anything and everything. Take it easy.
About The Author
Nikita Bhadoria: Nikita is working with HawksCode Softwares Pvt. Ltd. She has been passionate about writing and been in the field since her schooling days covering a variety of topics like Patriotism, Friendships, Mother’s Presence, Movie Characters, Love, Life, Seasons, etc. Writing is on future cards for her and wishes to write stories that inspire people.