Why Parents need to give space to their Kids

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Parents & Kid relationship is one of the most strongest bond one can come across in the entire world. The roots of this bond are so deep and strong no matter where the parenthood is being carried out whether it is in India or somewhere overseas. Besides sharing the same bond and relationship, it can be clearly seen that there is a huge difference between Indian parenting and Foreign countries parenting.

All the Indians, especially young Indians have idea regarding the kind of parenting delivered by the parents to their kids in foreign countries like America or United Kingdom and sort of feel deprived from the benefits of having “Modern Parenting”.

Modern Parenting:-

Modern Parenting cannot be defined as such as firstly, parenting cannot be categorized and summoned in few terms but if considering kids as an individual personality and treating them without forcing any control is ‘Modern Parenting’ then, Indians parents need to start applying Modern parenting. Indian parents are probably the most active parents of the world but being too active and involved in their kid’s life suffocates their own kids and they don’t even realize it because it is all concerned to the protection and safety of their kids. Some common and not so ancient applications and restrictions ruled by Indian parents are- forbidding the kids from staying outside late at nights, stopping them to be friend anyone of the opposite gender, being not-so-supportive in choosing the career of their  kid’s own interest, not considering the privacy of the kids, not giving them any personal space etc but, does any of the above mentioned point has anything to do with the safety of the kids except the ‘staying outside at night’ point?

Most of the things done by Indian parents are due to their unknown insensitivity towards their kid’s individuality and not due to the safety concerns. Parents forbid their kids to lock their bedrooms while sleeping or placing the desktop in the most visible space of the house or not letting them choose the career,or marrying the person of their own choice regardless of the background because they don’t really understand the individuality of their kid.

It’s true that no author or speaker or big personality can lecture the parents on ‘how to be parents’ but it can be improved to ‘how to be friends while being parents’. The things said by parents for the things to not to do, in the most strict manner are probably one of the most damaging things to the kids but what more damaging is the fear of the kid of confessing it in front of the parents upon it’s commitment and what’s more scarier is not coming straight to the parents for help and start approaching the outside bodies for it. Saying things in strict manner and bringing that fear in the hearts of the kids can stop the kids from doing anything wrong but it could work in an opposite manner as well.

Things can be improved from ‘do not do this or we will not forgive you’ to ‘do not do this it will bring harm to you but if the harm comes, we are here standing with you’ or from ‘he or she is my kid, it will do whatever I wish and say’ to ‘he or she has got an individual personality, he knows what’s right and wrong and can take decision accordingly’. Parents just need to trust their upbringing done for the kids.

About The Author

Why Parents need to give space to their KidsNikita Bhadoria : Nikita is working with HawksCode Softwares Pvt. Ltd. She has been passionate for writing and been in the field since her schooling days covering variety of topics like Patriotism, Friendships, Mother’s Presence, Movie Characters, Love, Life, Seasons etc. Writing is on the future cards for her and wishes to write stories that inspire people.